Happy Together.....

Nurul Anis masa kecik2...

Saje je nak pastekan gambar2 Anis masa dia kecik2 dulu...terkenang kisah dolu-dolu..

Alahai...anis....

Dua hari lepas, malam, time tu Anis dah naik katil nak tidor..tetiba dia cakap.."Ibu...kakak tak nak hisap puting lagi..nah..puting..buang ah.., kakak dah besar.."..Uihh terkejut berok aku..Anis tak nak puting lagik..biar betul budak nih...memang betul..malam tuh dia tidor tanpa puting kat mulut...

Okle tuh...satu permulaan yg bagus..sebelum2 nih..susah benar aku dok pujuk dia supaya jangan hisap puting..buruk bebenor aku nengok..dah besar2 pon dok mengonggong puting tuh...Macam-macam helah dah buat, macam2 fakta dah cerita kat dia (Anis ni jenis yg akan terima pendapat @ dengar cakap kalu ada fakta kukuh)..tapi bab puting nih segala fakta2 yg diberi tak jalan...

Bila puting hilang..dia akan ajak kita turun kedai..pegi beli puting baru..kalu puting tuh dah koyak..same gak..dia akan suruh kita beli baru..kalu kata kat kedai tuh tak jual..she'll said.."kat Giant ade"...No point tipu dia kata kat kedai tak jual puting..sbb dia tahu kat kedai bawah umah kitaorang memang ade jual benda alah tuh...Tension tol..

Kalu dia tak dapat puting...dia akan melalak..melalak dan melalak..mengalahkan adik dia..heeee...tension..tension..

Si Amani tak hisap puting..tapi bila dia tengok kakak hisap..dia suka pegi tarik puting tuh..dah dapat kat tangan dia..dicampaknye puting tuh..apalagi..marah le si kakak..si amani ni pon satu hal..suka sangat pegi usik puting si kakak..udahnye.. last2 dua2 melalak..

Dan aku ngan Anis memang..tiap2 malam mesti gaduh pasal puting nih..kadang2 tuh..dia dah nak tido..tapi puting tertinggal kat luar..melalak suruh ibu pg amik..amik sendiri tak nak..hangin tol aku..Tak pon.memalam buta tuh..tak pasal2 kena geledah satu umah mencarik puting dia..Dulu2..memang selalu ade spare puting..tapi lately nih..saje je tak nak beli extra..biarkan dia..pandai lak tuh nak jaga puting dia tuh....

Anis nih..dari dulu lagi dah trained dia..puting tuh masukkan dalam bantal kecik (bantal busuk dia le tuh)..habis isap..sumbat dalam bantal..senang skit, so chances utk kehilangan puting tuh kurang...walaupon selalu jugak hilang..salah satu nye...kena campak ngan adik..hehehhe

So, since Anis cakap tak nak puting tuh..so far baru sekali aku nampak dia hisap..itupun dia terhisap..bila aku cakap.."aik..kata dah tak nak hisap puting"..terus dia cabut puting tuh sambil sengih..terlupa le tuh...

Biar le dia..mungkin dia ade terfikir le fakta2 yg aku beri tuh..cthnye..gigi dia akan jadi jongang...gigi jarang, mulut busuk..etc...siap tunjukkan kat dia gambar2 gigi yg rosak...baru dia percaya.. klu setakat cakap without prove, dia tak herannye..

Lagi satu..klu nak larang Anis dari buat benda2 yg bukan2..contohnye melompat atas katil..klu setakat tengking tak jalannye...aku kena slow talk..beritahu dia sebab2 tak leh lompat..klu melompat mungkin kakak jatuh atau terhantuk kat dinding..klu terhantuk ok lagi..buatnye kakak jatuh..patah tangan ke..patah gigi ke..dahh. kena pg hospital..nanti tangan kena simen..kena tidor kat hospital..and normally she'll relate the story to benda2 yg dah pernah jadi..mcm.."nanti kena simen tangan mcm kak aina ek"..tak pon.."nanti berdarah mcm ayong ek"...hahhhh..mcm2 tulah...

Si Amani lak..sampai sekarang time minum tuh, tak nak pegang botol sendiri..tak tau le..dia malas pegang botol tuh atau dia tak tau nak penagn..tapi klu tuang susu sepah2..pandai lak...

Anis's Imaginary Friend

Lately ni..aku selalu sangat tengok and dengar Anis bercakap sensorang..Kadang2 dia main sensorang pon dia bercakap2..One day aku tanya le.."kakak cakap dengan sapa?"..then she said.."kakak cakap dengan kawan kakaklah.."

"mana kawan kakak tuh...ape nama dia.."..sambil dia tunjuk sebelah dia.."ni ah kawan kakak...nama dia NORAZITA.."..

Hah!! sudah...sapa pulak dok sebelah dia tuh..gerun gak aku dengar..nak pulak time tu my hubby takde..aku lak penakut.mula lah aku pikir bukan2...aku tanya lagi...

"kawan kakak tuh besar ke.."..dia jawab.."aha..besar.."..sambil tangan tunjuk ke atas..."mak aihhh..besarnye kawan kakak..sampai syiling tuh tinggi dia.."

Aku memula risau gak ngan si Anis nih..betul ke budak nih..takut gak something wrong ngan dia nye psychology..mana le tau kan..selalu sangat dok kena marah..and tengking ngan ibu ayah dia..tah2 dia tension ke..dia stress ke...ishhhh...risau aku..

Kadang2 tuh..bila tanya dia.."mana kawan kakak..dia tak datang main ngan kakak ke ari nih.."..selamba je dia jawab.."takde..dia balik umah dia lah.."

Ciri2 NORAZITA yg Anis selalu cerita kat aku le..
1) Badan dia tinggi..kurus..
2) Rambut panjang
3) Pakai baju gaun warna kuning..
4) suka senyum..n cantik..
5)...ape lagi ek..banyak actually..aku lupa lah...

Kenkadang tuh...uncle pon ade..dok tepi almari..dok sengih kat Anis..Hah!!..camna tuh..yg ni..aku memang gerun..sebab Anis masa tuh tengah nak tidor..then dia suruh aku peluk dia..dia suruh peluk kuat2 lak tuh..Aku tanya kenapa..dia kata..dia takut..uncle tu dok senyum kat dia ajak main....Bila tanya..uncle mana pulak nih.."tuh..uncle kat tepi almari tuh"..Bila suruh dia describe muka uncle tuh macam mana..dia kata uncle tu dok senyum je..badan uncle besar..then aku cakap kuat2 le kat uncle tuh..(actually aku pon takut.heheh)."uncle..uncle jangan le kacau Anis..Anis nak tido..dia tak nak main le...dia dah ngantok..esok jelah main"..sambil bangun bukak lampu...hehehhe..

Lepas tuh Anis pon tido..and aku yang tak tidor dok memikir....bila cakap kat hubby..hubby kata.."Awak ade marah anis ke siang tadi..maybe dia tension.." ermmm...tah le..mungkin ade benarnye..

Back to NORAZITA..last week kitaorang balik Senawang, umah mertua...NORAZITA tu pun ikut..sebab aku dengar Anis dok bercakap kat tangga...bila tanya dia..dia beritahu yang dia main ngan NORAZITA...


Here got some info about Imaginary friend...bila baca article ni..lega skit le..tapi risau still ade..

When Your Child's New Friend is Imaginary
by Anita Gurian, Ph.D.
Many young children (about 65%) develop imaginary friends between the ages of 3 and 5, at a time when they beginning to form their own identities and to test the boundaries between fantasy and reality. Although it was generally believed that children outgrow imaginary friends by the time they enter school, research shows that nearly one-third continue to play with imaginary friends through age 7.¹ A study which followed children for three years, found some differences over time. At a younger age imaginary friends were more likely to be based on a physical object, such as a stuffed animal, more girls than boys were likely to have imaginary friends, and parents were more likely to know about the imaginary friend. However, few differences were found in social or emotional understanding and in personality between children who had imaginary friends and those who did not. However, according to the study, those with imaginary friends tended to be better at seeing things from other people's perspective.

Still, some parents view the emergence of an imaginary friend with alarm. Is my child compensating for a lack of stimulation? Is my child socially maladjusted? Should I discourage the imaginary friend or play along? In general, your best response is simply to relax. An imaginary friend is usually nothing more than the product of a curious and creative mind figuring out how to make sense of the widening world. In fact, children who have active imaginations tend to develop into curious and creative adults.

Imaginary friends serve several useful purposes. They enable children to try out different relationships at a critical point in their social development. They allow children to explore issues of control, discipline, and power without the anxiety attached to interactions with real authority figures. For example, if you hear your young daughter scolding an imaginary friend, don't automatically assume that you've been too harsh with her. The scenario may be your child's imaginative way of trying to understand concepts of authority, right and wrong, and punishment. An imaginary friend can help your child cope with difficult emotions. For example, a child who spills a glass of milk may blame the imaginary friend as a way of dealing with his or her guilt—a perfectly normal strategy.

Anxieties associated with major changes in a child's life, such as a new baby or a divorce, may also be reflected in the child's relationship with the imaginary playmate. Parents can monitor any changes in the relationship with the imaginary friend to gain valuable insights into how the child is coping and then take action, if appropriate. For example, you might notice that your 4-year-old is suddenly much more attached to his imaginary playmate in the weeks preceding a move. Although he hasn't directly expressed any fear about the move, his intensified relationship with his imaginary friend could be a cue that he needs reassurance, while his home might change, the people most important to him will continue to be part of his life.

When should you become concerned? Take your cue from the intensity and duration of the child's involvement with the imaginary friend. A child who avoids meaningful interaction with other kids, preferring to play exclusively with an invented friend, may be experiencing psychological distress. Imaginary friends eventually disappear, but if a child continues to focus only on an invented companion you might consider consulting a professional to determine if the child has any underlying concerns or anxieties. In general, however, an imaginary friend is a sign that your child is dealing with the complex issues that confront all young children as they interact with the world around them. Don't discourage or belittle the relationship, but don't become too involved either. Go along with the scenario, but within limits; you can gently but firmly let your child know that Mikey is only make-believe.

Above all, try to enjoy this very natural and often enchanting facet of your child's growth; he or she is meeting the sometimes daunting challenges of development in an inventive and imaginative fashion.